Sunday, October 25, 2009

I refuse to grow up....

We all are actors wearing masks and pretending to be someone we are not. This might be hard to accept for us but yes, this is the truth. We are someone else when we are with our parents/relatives pretending to be all decent, we jump into some other character when we are with our gf/bf pretending to be loyal and faithful, when with elders/teachers/colleagues we are the one who is trying to present himself as mature and intelligent. I am not saying that one is not decent, loyal, mature or intelligent that he needs to pretend all the time but we cant disregard the fact that we have done this at some point of our life or still do or will do in future. One thing I understand that may be we pretend because we try to create a good impression on others.

But not with friends. We can be ourselves in front of our friends(I mean really good friends). With friends we need not to fear about creating any impression because they know us well. If we are 30 but still a kid by heart, we can show our true side to our freinds which cannot be the case with others who will consider us immature if we do so but our friends won't because they know us and understand us well. Afterall this is what friends are for- you can be as stupid as you want to be, as childish as you want to be, do whatever you feel like. There is a child in all of us but yes we would be considered immature if we show our childish behaviour to others and here is when friends come to our rescue. We won't be considered immature if we behave like that in front of our friends. Ofcourse we should know how to present ourself when we are with other people. We cannot afford to be called immature by others. What matters is how we put our views to others. One can argue that you are 30 and a kid by heart so how can you present yourself as a mature person in front of others so here I would like to say that being 30 and a kid by heart is different from being 30 and a kid by mind. Altough you are a kid by heart, your mind which is mature enough will eventually stop you from acting as a kid in front of others and the same mind will set you free to be what you are when you are with your friends.

Many a times we deprive ourselves with small-small things which we love to do and which gives us happiness like blowing in a glass full of juice through straw and creating bubbles, dancing in the rain, playing a silly prank which can make others laugh, hop on a swing and sway till we have forgotten all our worries, licking a cone icecream, hog on to chocolates. We deprive ourselves of hapiness because we know that we are mature and we are not supposed to act in such a way in front of others but there is no need to deprive ourselves with such happiness in front of our friends. I ask in this fast-forward life when we have no time for anything, when emotions and happiness have no place in life, when the life is just limited to home-office-home, if we find little happiness by being a kid or doing what you feel like in front of your close friends, what is wrong in it? I act in front of others but don't want to do the same when I am with friends.I don't know about others but I don't want to grow up at the cost of happiness. I value happiness more than anything else and thus in front of my pals I refuse to grow up.

8 comments:

Anupama Garimella said...

Yea SOCIETY and the average person around you thinks its NOT ok for a grown-up to want to be a child. But the real challenge is in going against the same people and standing up for whats right. To me, whats right is what makes me happy. In every dimension. Happiness in its purest sense. Maturity, to me, is the ability to shed all the inhibitions and constraints forcefully imposed upon us from the second we were born, and reclaim the innocence we lost the very second we were born.

King David said...

Wake Up Sid dekha kya Laddu.

Its now "Wake Up Laddu"

One always thinks to grow. But they really need to know the difference of growing old and growing up.

Once they know the difference, they will see and feel the difference in them.

dory the fish said...

Interesting..! Only true friends accept you the way you are.. I think they (and perhaps your parents) are the only people who see your real side..

shana said...

heres my sympathy vote!

nasha said...

i agree wth u- ppl shudnt pretend in front of frnds..and tat there is a child within all of us

but in ur case....

there is a lil bit of a 22 yrs old in that child!!

karthik said...

Bingo!!Right on the money..

Mehak said...

cool! i agree..i can be just the way i want to with friends - silly, childish, temperamental, anything! :)

Stigacup said...

@Anu - Your maturity defn is cool!!

@Kragoth and Shana.. Karthik's comment is funny!! :)

@ Laddu - Dude.. Who asked you to grow up man? You need not grow up at all. Stay childish. Its cool as long as u dont irritate karthik.